Breaking Free



 'INTROVERT-ED-NESS' was imposed upon me. 

As a typical 'omo get inside' growing up, outside stopped appealing to me. I wanted to participate in things, meet people, be involved in activities, but I was never allowed to--and so I grew up like that. 

Made most of my friends on the internet because it was all I had, and outside became unappealing. Going out became a big chore and was literally an 'out of your comfort zone' thing that I didn't want to do for various reasons. 

I never got outing clothes, because 'where I dey wear am go' was my mantra, even when I moved out of the house. 

It had sown a deep seed inside of me and I became comfortable in it. 

I lost chances to have some experiences, meet some people, get involved in some things, because going outside felt too scary for me. 

But now, I'm very angry. Very dissatisfied. Because I want to go outside. I want to get involved in projects, activities, experiences. There's the issue of money but now I don't know if what's holding me back is money or comfort. 

I do well in public places. That's after getting past all the stages of inferiority complex that staying inside imposed on me. 

I want to challenge it! To fight out of it! 

I'm done being indoors! 

I'm done being comfortable! 

I'm done playing it safe!

I'm done staying where I was put years ago! 

I'm done being timid. 

Take me outside. Let the sun kiss my skin. 

✍️

Itohan 💜

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