ITOHAN'S LITTLE CORNER ✍️

 Why are we always in a hurry?  Where are we always rushing to?  Rushing to brush, rushing to wash plates, rushing to bathe, even eating food in a rush, walking very fast... Everything is an emergency. There's always an urgency to what we do.  Thinking we need to make decisions fast.  We need to 'make it' quickly.  We need to this.. We need to that.  Always in a hurry.  I have observed this about myself and here is what i realized.  Survival Mode.  Yes.  My nervous system has been in survival mode for years, and now it is not accustomed to taking things slow.  To enjoying moments. To REST.  It's fear.  Fear that I may not be able to do it again, or do it well. Fear that if I relax, I am not worthy of the results I seek, fear that if I don't do it now, I'll fall into the unknown.  But the Lord hasn't given us a spirit of fear. He said it in 2 Timothy 1:7.  I type too fast.  I rush chores.  I rush to...

 I fell down the stairs, right in front of two boys. Oh, the embarrassment. But you know what I did? I got up, with the help of one of them who stretched out his hand, amid sorrys and “are you okay?”s. I was fine. The only thing that probably took a hit was my ego. I brushed it off and kept going. The next day, I saw the same guys again. I climbed the same stairs, and I’ve climbed them every day since. And no, I haven’t fallen again. Now this isn’t to brag about how sturdy my feet became or how kind those guys were. It’s to remind you of how many times you fell and then refused to go back. See, my feet didn’t become sturdier. I still walk and run on those stairs. What changed was this: I discovered exactly what made me trip. It was my slippers. Did I change them? Yes. Did I stop taking the stairs? No. Because you don’t need to stop trying something just because you failed once. You only need to identify what caused the fall, the failure, the dent. And even though people witnessed t...

You are mentally exhausted.  Mental laziness and exhaustion can occur due to trauma, survival mode, and/or 'lack', and can hinder you from learning and growing sustainable skills.  Why?  Because sustainable skills take time to learn, grow and perfect.  And you know what someone in survival mode doesn't have? Time.  You are flying by the seat of your pants.  Probably homeless, and trying to get enough to feed for the week.  Probably do not even own a smartphone to have access to learning these skills.  Probably even depressed from the weight of carrying the burden of their existence on their shoulders.  And do you know what that makes you?  Mentally exhausted.  Because you are used to quick fixes and odd jobs to 'get by', at some point, learning that skill seems like a chore, reading that long article seems unnecessary.  Your nervous system is addicted to fast releases and gratification.  You rely on the little you know, to...

BRING BACK INCONVENIENCE!  There was a time when people would go the mile for family and friends.  When people were open to serving and being present for their family and friends.  But these days, we are plagued with so much selfishness wrapped up in self care and self love, that important friendships and relationships are suffering.  👉🏾You wouldn't attend your friend's birthday hang out or visit them because 'I don't really feel like being around people. People stress me out...i just want some ME TIME'  👉🏾You wouldn't relate with people because, 'their energy..they give me b@d vibes.' Or the worst... 'Our zodiac signs don't usually get along' My goodness!!!  👉🏾You get a message from someone on your phone, you open it to read, you left it unanswered, and you keep on posting on your status. When the person speaks up on how disrespectful it is to ignore them, you go on about 'you are not the one that bought me a phone, I can do whatev...

 Detours Are Not Dead-Ends In life, it’s easy to feel discouraged when the road to your dreams doesn’t look straight. Maybe you’ve had to take a job you never planned for. Maybe you’ve paused something you love because responsibilities demanded your attention. It can feel like you’re losing time or drifting away from your true path. But here’s the truth: a detour is not a dead-end. Dreams don’t die just because you paused to care for yourself or to meet your needs. Sometimes, the pause is God’s way of funding your dream, building your resilience, or preparing you for bigger opportunities. Think of detours as necessary bus stops on the way to fulfillment. They aren’t meant to cage you; they are moments to rest, reflect, and gather strength for the next stretch of the journey. It’s okay to take that job while you build. It’s okay to slow down and live in the present. It’s okay to adjust your pace while keeping your eyes fixed on the prize. Who knows? Maybe you are exactly where you n...

  On Monday, I sat in a tricycle with a secondary school student.  It was the first day of resumption, new class, new experiences. I noticed how prim and perfect she looked, but what caught my eye was the tag on her school bag. The tag that indicated that the bag was new. I smiled. The tag could have been cut out, and you would still know that the bag was new. How? Because it was obvious, and because of the smell that new bags have.  People would believe it's a new bag even without the tag on it. So who exactly is the reassurance and/or bragging rights for  O urselves For a minute I allowed my mind to wonder, back to over a decade ago, when I too would resume a new session wirh new socks, sometimes new shoes, a new bag, new pack of notebooks, and how excited I felt, ready to show off and get started.  The Joy would fill my heart, so much that I would wake up really early on that first day... When I returned to the present, I thought about how we---like that girl...